Death in life

I think these rituals help people that are mourning their loved ones.  The process of how someone is buried and how they have a funeral are all to help everyone remember the dead and how they lived their lives.  When my grandpa died, I do not know what I would have done without the funeral.  It helped me remember all the times I had with him and how great of a person he was.  Funerals are there to comfort those in need of some good feelings.  Without it I think that thee would be a greater chance for depression in peoples lives that knew the person that died.  I know I would have not had a way to express my feelings about him, so they would just be bundled up inside of me.  Not that I did not, but I think that I would have wondered a lot more about him.  I would have sat there for days thinking about him and if anyone else felt the way I did.  I think that was the biggest part of the funeral that helped me.  Even though he was in Dallas for less than a year, the entire church was full of people that he had impacted in just less than one year.  This was probably the most influential part.  I saw that others saw his greatness and how he lived his life.  Without this I would feel alone in life and just wonder why he had to go the way he did.  I never got to say an actual goodbye so the funeral acted like my goodbye to him.  It helped me to realize that he was gone and allow me an actual goodbye that would be forever. 

            I know for my grandma she obviously had a tough time with this and will always.  She has not really had life without him.  They have been together since they were sixteen.  That is almost her entire life with him so when it was over, there was a major change that happened when he died.  There was no one that understood her even just a little bit compared to him.  He was always there for her and always understood what was next.  Still she keeps his ashes in her room as a way to compensate for the fact that he is gone forever.  His ashes will never leave there I suppose because this is just another way for her to cope with the death of the love of her life.  Another thing that they decided to do is when she dies, their ashes will be mixed and distributed in places that they loved to be.  This helps everyone because where the ashes were placed help those that want to talk to them and miss them.  Going to those places makes them feel like they were there and even feel like they were still there.  At the very least it feels like they are watching when you go there.